Romance Your Wife - Ask Her Out On A Romantic Date

If you want to romance your wife, think about how you won her heart in the first place. Your romantic relationship may have started out when you called her and asked her out on a date. When you went out for the first time, you were sweet, romantic and you tried hard to impress her. She apparently enjoyed your loving attention, because she ended up marrying you. If you want to romance your wife, it is time to start dating her again.

Before you start, do a little research. What do you think your wife would like to do on a romantic date? If you decide to go to dinner and a movie, what restaurant do you think she would enjoy? What movie has she been wanting to see? If your wife enjoys a certain type of restaurant, ask your friends and coworkers for recommendations. They may also have ideas for a really good movie.

After you've decided on the plans for your romantic date, call her several days in advance and ask her out. When you call her, act like you are asking her out for a first date. For example:

Jack: Hi Jane?

Jane: Yes?

Jack: Hi, this is Jack Johnson. Jane, I've really enjoyed the time we've spent together and I was wondering if you would be interested in going out this weekend?

Jane: Jack? You mean like on a date?

Jack: Yes, I thought we could both enjoy some time together.

Jane: Why that does sound nice, what did you have in mind?

Jack: There's a new restaurant on Fifth Avenue that I have heard good things about. I thought we could have dinner there and then see "Romance Never Dies" at the movie theater.

Jane: Well Jack, it sounds like you have this all planned out. That sounds wonderful. I'm free Saturday night.

Jack: Saturday night it is. I'll look forward to it!

Jane: So will I!

When the big day comes, act like it's your first date. Get your car washed, select some nice clothes to wear and shower and shave just before your date. If you're wife asks what you're doing, tell her you have a hot date tonight. When it is time for your date, pull the car out front. Get out of the car and knock on the front door. When your wife answers the door, greet her and ask her if she is ready for your romantic date. When you walk her to the car, be sure to open the car door for her. Throughout your date, work hard to try to impress her, just as you would on a first date. When you arrive home after the date, walk around the car and open the car door for her. Walk her to the door. When you get to the porch, take her hands in yours and tell her that you had a very nice time and that you hope that you can do it again some time soon. Then, end your date with a sweet, romantic goodnight kiss.

If you want to romance your wife, never stop dating her.

Slaying The Green Eyed Monster

He hasn't called in hours. You call and get the roommate: "Oh, sorry ….he got in really late last night and is still asleep!"

Your mind starts racing: "What did he do last night?" Your heart starts to pound. You feel sick to your stomach.. Uh, oh… you're jealous. You feel like you can't live with yourself one more minute until you find out what is going on … suddenly, the potential threat to the relationship becomes the most important thing in the world … more important than eating, working or concentrating on tasks at hand. More important than … living life itself.

According to Canadian psychiatrist Dr. Irving Walkoff, "Nobody escapes jealousy. It is a natural human reaction that finds its basis in evolutionary biology. The roots of this are ancient and Darwinian —part of "the survival of the fittest." You see the other woman as being somehow better than you — the assumption is that they are better at adaptation, better at seduction, a better parent … in short are more fit to continue the species than you … this triggers a fight or flight response in many people. Jealousy is there to protect you and your DNA — the desire to pass on your DNA is your portal into the future."

It might be perfectly natural to experience jealousy, but in most religions, this emotion is still considered to be ugly and morally repugnant — a feeling to be stifled with either copious amounts of prayer (Christian) or by practicing zen detachment from object attachment (Buddhism). In the 13th century the Italian writer St. Cyrus wrote that "he who becomes jealous imitates the Devil." .

Canadian psychiatrist Dr. William Pennell Rock affirms that jealousy is a spiritual crisis. "Most people make the mistake of thinking they own another person …your problem is not with your partner, but with a God so cruel and perverse that he would actually consider manifesting a threat that might take your partner away from you. It also doesn't help that most of us see the one we love, as our direct connection, a way of having love channeled to us from God. Unfortunately, people are fallible so that is a connection that ultimately cannot be trusted. So, is there any way of slaying The Green Eyed Monster before it rears it's ugly head and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Nobody wants to stick around a green-eyed monster for long. According to Rock, one must learn the difference between attachment and love. "The truth of love is that it is unconditional. Attachment is quite different… Attachment is not care for the other; it's care for oneself. This distinction has to be understood: Are you loving? Or are you attached? If you are attached you are going to experience the pain of jealousy. It follows that jealousy becomes the opportunity to see within yourself the truth of attachment. Not theoretically understanding, but existential awareness of attachment at its very roots. Only through this awareness can jealousy really be transcended."

Marion Woodman, authour of "Addicted To Perfection" says some of us choose to be jealous, simply because we are addicted to creating drama. "We will create a crisis, whether the partner is in the picture or not." That's why so many people still create scenarios about the departed partner or imagine what they might be up to months after they have been abandoned. That .It is better to be attached to a negative memory, or even torture yourself with a negative thought that links you to the partner, rather than face the abyss of being alone.

The bottom line is that a healthy person is able to choose the way they perceive any situation. Both psychiatrists and moralists describe jealousy as being crisis of faith. You are not so threatened by the fact that your partner might leave you, but more by the idea that God won't take care of you if he or she does…perhaps the best way to slay the Green Eyed Monster is to slay the ego, have faith and learn how to take care of the self.

Give Women What They Want - Part 2

Clothing

I spoke with one lady who said she was really fussy about certain things. The main thing with her was the shoes a guy wears. Now I would never have guessed this one, but she says that if a guys shoes aren't up to scratch then it is a big turn off. Luckily enough I knew about this before I met her.

My shoes are not usually well polished. In fact I wear sneakers a great deal of the time. Therefore, when speaking to a potential date on the phone, you might like to slip in a question such as "How do you like your guys dressed? Casual? Smart?"

Hygiene

Have a bath or shower before you go out! Sure, I don't need to tell you this but let me remind you just in case! Clean your teeth!

Appear as smart as you can with your personal hygiene and look clean.

Money, Looks and Power

Certain traits attract women. It is the law of the jungle out there and there is a pecking order. Some people have inherent natural advantages such as exceptionally good looks. Others have advantages that they have earned such as power or money. Let's examine what women seek in these areas.

Money

Money, lots of it, is attractive to women. This is a generalisation as some women are far less influenced by money than others. Having said that, I know of several women who say, "Money isn't important to me." Next minute they're describing some really nice guy they've met adding the words "and he's rich!" to the end of the conversation. Now if that isn't proof positive of their interest in someone with money then I don't know what else is.

But lets look at some recent research results. There were a group of males who were graded for their attractiveness. A photograph of each was taken and a fictitious job title attached to each. These photographs were then shown to a large sample of women who were asked to rate the physical attractiveness of each male. Next, each male had a different job title attached to his picture and they were rated for attractiveness again.

What the researchers found was that the males were rated as significantly more physically attractive when given a lucrative job title than when given a less lucrative job title. For example, a guy may get a 7/10 if labelled as a lawyer, yet only a 4/10 if they were told he was a janitor.

So how can we use this knowledge to our advantage?

Here's how

Men Don’t Search - Be Searched For! Women - GO SEARCH!

<b>Why Online Dating can help you find Your Soul Mate</b>

I have a question for you . . .

<b>Do you really want to be happy?</b>

If you had to think about that for even a second I'm sorry but there isn't any help for you. You should crave happiness like air. It should be something that you feel so strongly about that you'll do anything, within reason, to get it.

So how can you get this happiness?

Well there is no greater feeling in life than the feeling of true love. Or the first kiss after that perfect first date. These are feelings that us mortals live for - feelings that everyone on this planet should be able to experience. So why shouldn't you?

<b>Hence the huge growth in Online Dating!</b>

Online dating has for some time had an aura about it that people who get involved in it are "losers" who couldn't get themselves a date in the "real world". Which is nonsense.

Many people just haven't the time due to work commitments to find that elusive partner. Others find the initial approach too hard therefore an email is a lot easier. Whilst some just love the buzz of excitement when an email from a potential soul mate comes through.

Whichever category you fall in, be it one of the above or another, you are not a loser. The truth is this:

<b>A survey showed that 83% of the people who thought that online dating was

Finding the Right Valentine Day Gift for Her

Oh boy! Here comes another Valentine day disaster. If you are anything like me, this is how you feel for about 2 weeks prior to February 14th.At least that's the way I felt until the internet came around.

Now, shopping on the internet can be as daunting as the mall, especially for the shopping challenged like me.Unless you have a specific idea what you want, roaming malls can actually be easier than browsing an online store. Even with high speed download clicking from page to page looking for gift ideas just doesn't work.

So what do you do? You need to get a plan and stick to it

Re-ignite the Flames of Passion – Take a Valentine Day Romantic Getaway

Planning for and taking a Romantic Getaway is an exciting way for you and your sweetheart to spend Valentine?s Day. Even if Valentine?s Day falls in the week, make it a priority to get away from the everyday stress and pressures of life and relax, enjoy and romantically reconnect with your partner.

Let?s face it ? how long has it been since you and your paramour have cuddled together and taken time off from the rigors of life just to spend time pampering each other and making one another feel special? When was the last time you engaged in private, unhurried intimacy with no other thought on your minds but to please each other and be in each others company?

Taking a Romantic Getaway requires some forethought and planning so you can have a great time together. But remember a few things:

· Keep your cell phones turned off and leave office work at home.

· No TV unless it is tuned to one of those ?mood elevating? action flicks (you know what I mean?).

· Stay away from those hotels that promise you a private, romantic weekend but instead high pressure you to spend lots of cash for every amenity.

· Don?t spend time shopping and don?t plan to do too many activities during your getaway. Just relax and let things flow spontaneously.

· Turn your romantic hideaway into a love nest. Take along sexy lingerie, candles, romantic CD?s to set the mood and scented bubble bath. Don?t forget to bring the champagne and champagne glasses.

· Bring along a special Romantic Gift Basket loaded with delicacies and special treats that you both love. It can contain wine, cheese, fruits and above all chocolates ? the aphrodisiac of love.

· If you have any romantic games, bring them along. For example, strip poker, sensual charades, etc.

Romantic Getaways are a sure fire way to recharge your relationship and re-ignite your passions. Remember, relationships are tricky ? they?ve got to be tuned up and re-fueled once in a while, or the battery goes dead and the flames of passion go out.

That requires some work and planning but you?ll find it to be the best investment you have ever made. They?ll both emerge from love nest refreshed, calmer and more in love with each other.

HAPPY VALENTINE?S DAY TO ALL!

Is He Cheating On You

Is your boyfriend cheating on you? Do you know the signs that indicate he may be seeing someone else? Is his recent behavior getting more confusing and you can't figure out what is going on?

Being cheated on is to have your trust violated and your heart broken. You feel betrayed by the one you love and thought loved you. It can feel like the end of the world. However, the sooner you can know the truth and face the facts of your relationship, the sooner you can move on with your life.

What are the signs that he is cheating on you? Here are the three main patterns of behavior that cheaters fall into that spell something is <b>S.A.D.</b> between you:

<b> S stands for Secretive</b>

Your boyfriend may be cheating on you if he is acting secretive. Does he have a new cell phone and he has not given you the number? Does he have a new email address that he has not shared? Does he stay on the computer late at night? Does he sometimes whisper into the phone and then tell you it was a wrong number? Does he suddenly have to go somewhere for some strange reason? He is going to the gym more, working longer hours (but it doesn't show on his paystub,) getting new clothes, trying a new hairstyle, listening to new music, and making sure that the car is cleaned out? Does he hide the credit card bill each month and tell you he will take care of it at the office? If any of these secretive behaviors appear, you might look at why.

<b>A is for Accusatory</b>

If your boyfriend is cheating on you he may start to accuse <b>you</b> of cheating on him. When he first accuses you, it may sound funny because that may be the farthest thing from your mind, but that accusation is a red flag that something is going on with him. He may also pick fights with you over nothing and then get mad and storm out of the house. He makes these accusations because he feels guilty, and he picks fights to give himself a reason to go out to see her. He may also pick fights so you will break up with him and then he will feel absolved of guilt.

<b> D stands for Detached </b>

Cheating may be going on in your relationship if your boyfriend seems to be growing more and more detached from you. He has stopped sharing about his day or he isn't talking about his thoughts or his feelings like he used to. When you ask him why he is so quiet or what's going on, he says he's tired and he's had a hard day at work. Not only is he acting more detached from you, but so are his co-workers and some of his friends. These are the people who know he is seeing someone else. He may have also told them a lot of untrue stories about you to make you look bad. He's trying to justify his new love interest.

What can you do if you suspect your lover is untrue? You can seek counseling and support from an objective professional. You can insist your partner accompany you to counseling. And whether or not he will go, you can sit down to have a heart to heart talk and tell him what you see, feel, or know from concrete evidence. You can work this out for yourself, whether you choose to stay or leave. What is not a good idea is to suffer in silence, waiting for him to return to you emotionally. You deserve more than that.

Is Shyness Interfering With Your Relationships With Single Women?

Are you shy around single women? Don't feel alone. Shyness around the opposite sex is very common for most men to some degree. It's a very normal reaction, especially when you're trying to approach and meet single women who are total strangers.

My definition of shyness with women is fear of being perceived negatively by the opposite sex. You're scared you're going to be rejected or not liked.

Let's focus on the dark side of shyness and how it can cause you problems in succeeding with single women:

<UL>

<LI>It can make you feel lonely and depressed.</LI>

<LI>It hinders your ability to meet and approach single women that you are attracted to.</LI>

<LI>It can interfere with you're ability to enjoy yourself when with the opposite sex (you feel too uptight).</LI>

<LI>It makes you too preoccupied and focused on your own reactions, which makes you feel uncomfortable when around women.</LI>

<LI>It interferes with your communication skills in expressing your opinions and values.</LI>

<LI>It prevents women from seeing the positive aspects of your personality.</LI>

<LI>When meeting new single women, you need to think clearly and communicate with her. Shyness interferes with this process.</LI> </UL>

Now, I want you to assess your own shyness with single women. Is it making you unhappy? Is it interfering with you being able to meet, date, attract, and seduce all the women you desire?

If it is, then you need to resolve here and now to take steps to overcome your shyness. And this is the perfect time to do it at the beginning of a new year. Make it your New Year's resolution to overcome your shyness and stick to it!

On the other hand, if your shyness causes you no problems and you're comfortable with it, then there is no need to change. There's even single women who like shy men and turned off by aggressive men.

Power Struggles

Mandy and Evan consulted with me for couple's counseling because they were always bickering. Every little thing seemed to become an issue between them. They loved each other very much, but the bickering was certainly getting in the way of enjoying each other.

I ask Mandy and Evan to come up with some recent conflicts so I could experience what was happening between them. They had conflicts over time, money, child rearing, family, and chores. The dynamic between them was the same no matter what the issue: One of them would complain about something

Getting Back In The Dating Game

I have bad news for you–if it hasn't already happened, some day a woman is going to break your heart. Yep, if you're alive, you're male, and you like women, some day one is going to break your heart. Although it can be mitigated, it can't ever be completely avoided, and how you respond to it will determine your success with dating women.

What I'm going to do today is tell you how to get back into the dating game–many guys screw this up, either jumping right back in and getting into the good ol' rebound relationship, or waste their lives mooning over the one that got away.

The first thing to realize is, no matter how much you use my dating strategies, if your relationship with a woman ends in a way you don't want it to (and this may range from her dumping you to her dying in a car accident), you're going to feel some pain, maybe some anger. You can't avoid that, so just accept it.

The worst of it will last about three weeks (sometimes more), and then it will begin to slowly dissipate. During these three weeks do NOT sit around and mope. Occupy your mind with massive action–work your ass off to make more money, hit the gym hard, do whatever you can to grab onto these powerful emotions and harness them. I've known many men who've started great businesses after dating a woman who figuratively kicked them in the teeth. Why? They harnessed their emotions and turned them towards creative means.

During this time I don't recommend you even think about dating or women. Sports, business, guy stuff, hobbies are all fine, but forget about women–they'll be there soon enough. The other thing to avoid is hatred. Be pissed off at what happened, but don't put it on her personally–you never know when she might come back.

After the initial feelings have dissipated a bit, you want to slowly start bringing women back into your life. I don't mean dating or anything like that, I just mean starting conversations with women. Talk to waitresses, bank tellers, saleswomen, and try to create initial attraction. Don't follow up, just get used to briefly creating attraction with all women. Do this for at least a month.

By this time the pain will be dissipating day by day–it'll still be there, but it will be less. The thing to do next is to start turning the initial attraction into meetings–coffee works best. Here you'll want to amplify that spark of attraction, and look for the opportunity to spend more time with her.

You should not be meeting or dating women who are looking for a serious relationship at this point. You want to meet women who are bright and fun, and who are out to have a good time. Nothing lessens pain more than having fun with a few great women, re-acclimating yourself to being in their company. Stay with this step as long as you want–I know a few knuckleheads who are blissfully "stuck" at this step, and that's OK.

Now you're to the point where you can decide for yourself if you're ready for something more serious. You've built a great foundation for yourself–you turned pain into creativity, learned how to create attraction for women, had some great dating adventures with some great women, and have the CHOICE of where to proceed next. Sounds a heck of a lot better to me than chasing some dumb rebound relationship or spending your life moping over the "one." She ain't the one, just the "last one" and YOU get to choose the "next one!" Take it from the King, the best cure for pain is planned action–you just might discover you came out ahead in the end.