The D Word — DATING

This installment covers the phone/email stalker. You can find this article series as part of Game Chronicles log onto: www.psstdating.com to find out more about the zine and the Dating Challenge contest.

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How to Act Around Beautiful Women

Basically, you shouldn't 'act' at all because women will see through it.

So many people say that you should 'just be yourself' around women. The problem is that most men just 'aren't' being themselves anymore around women. And no matter how they try, they just can't! What happens when they see an extremely desirable woman?

Their physiology changes. They become hesitant, incongruent in their body language, nervous, and so forth. Why? There was a change in his relational reality when he wasn't suppose to change, ESPECIALLY when he wasn't supposed to change.

Ultimately you ARE just supposed to be yourself around women. When you're comfortable in your own skin, then they'll be able to trust you and open up to you. It's really the woman's level of interest that matters and ultimately decides if both of you are getting anywhere anyways.

When you're comfortable in your own skin even in the face of her tremendously leveraged Inner and Social character power, women will start throwing you those natural looks and flirty signals much more. They'll start desiring YOU often for nothing other than being the first man who is truly comfortable around their beauty.

From a woman's angle, sure she's beautiful but it's also a curse because it's hard to find 'real men' especially who aren't jerks. And usually it's all kinds of 'nice guys' who are stuck in the relationship of being the permanent 'response' to her which she doesn't like at all.

But how do you just 'be yourself' around women when they ARE so beautiful, empowered, intelligent and desirable? After all, you shouldn't have to develop a fake 'persona' or 'front', you should be able to let your true colors shine like our forefathers did.

Well..

You could say to change your self-limiting beliefs but that still isn't going to help most guys. Why? Primarily because the things that have limited them in the first place, they're not aware of and don't understand those powers.

It's not necessarily 'them' that is the problem. It's lack of cognition in the great relational and social power game that is going on that is preventing men and women from being normal anymore.

Once you can 'see the matrix' like Neo does, you'll be able to differentiate yourself from it and have more independent power than you ever thought possible.

You'll be able to re-frame your entire reality to one of having only win/win relationships with other people including all sources of influence coming from the social matrix itself. Then, you'll be able to let your true colors shine.

You'll be a 'real man' who doesn't need pick up lines. You can just make comfortable and social connections, then let women respond and open up to you. Then the mating game continues from there because you were born to know what to do; just unlearn everything that has gotten in the way.

Realigning yourself to power alpha relational dynamics defines all of your behavior so that you anything you do is the right thing because the women are interested and attracted.

This is the way it's supposed to be, is for the 'naturals' and that's why you'll have to trust that you really don't need to learn 'the words to say' as those are just crutches for guys who are stuck in the response reality to the stimulus of women.

I teach men how to get this level of power and fearless with Relational Mapping and Nano Elemental Oversight. Consider it advanced, power relationship management and a complete change in reality with a complete change in results.

No more 'acting', it's time for 'being'. Being that man who is comfortable in his skin before, during and after any interaction with beautiful women and that's when they know they can trust you and respond to you. It's time to be 'real'.

He’s So Loving (But He Has These Black Moods)

It's strange how often abused women tell you how loving their partner is. Stranger still is that it usually happens after they have talked about extraordinary threats, behaviour or violence to which he has subjected them.

Obviously, it's a denial mechanism, a way of whitewashing his character.

It's also about the hunger for love - a hunger that becomes greater with every abusive outburst. In part, it's about settling for crumbs

Japanese Girls Dating Outside Their Race

Many people of the world are choosing to date outside their own ethnicity and Asian girls are no different. In fact, many men are attracted to Asian girls, even if they are not Asian themselves. With more Asian girls dating Caucasian and African American men, some people are getting upset by this.

Long ago, most Asian girls had pre-arranged marriages. In fact, they often had very little choice over who they would marry and who they could mingle with. Today however they have a lot more choice in the matter, much to many parents' chagrin. The question is if it is wrong for Asian girls to date outside their race.

Many of their parents and many Asian men think it is very wrong. Morally, they feel that Asian girls should stay true to their heritage and help that heritage go on in the world, in a pure way. They feel they should not procreate with those of different races. It really has more to do with national pride than racism. They simply want their race to go on, and if all of the Asian girls run off with people of different races, it will be difficult for it to go on completely.

However, no matter what, Asian girls are likely to do what they want. This is especially true of those that live in the USA, where they have no laws telling them who they can and cannot date or marry. It is certain that this will not cause the end of the Asian community in any way however. Their parents and others that view it as being wrong should simply get over it.

The Logic Of Females - Or Lack There Of

Many males complain that they don't understand females. Many females complain that they don't understand males. We also have the classic saying that men are from mars and women are from venus. Physically both sexes are very similar and are of the same species so what is the problem?

After much reading on the subject, there seems to be a general consensus that there is a fundamental difference in the way men and women think. The bottom line is that men think with logic but women think with emotions. This is why a male gets so frustrated with a females sometimes irrational behavior.

Additionally, a female rarely says directly what she wants. Instead, she will use reverse psychology by asking the male a series of questions until she gets the desired answer. If she does not get the desired answer she will take the huffs and give the male 'the cold shoulder treatment'. She thinks this will alert the male that something is wrong and he will do what she wants

Relationship Advice: 10 Ways to Prevent a Break Up

The question I am asked most often is: I think he/she is getting ready to leave me. What do I do? There isn't an easy answer for this or there wouldn't be any break ups. Every situation is different and sometimes breakups are inevitable. However this is not always the case and there are things you can do before you reach the breaking point that will help.

Here are the 10 most important things:<ol> <li> <b>Communicate.</b> Communication is important. If you find that when you try to communicate your feelings to your partner it always leads to an argument, try writing your feelings down. Read through what you've written. If you find things that are just petty problems with no real validity, eliminate them. Try to find the sources behind your words. For example, jealousy, are you jealous because you know he/she is cheating, or does it go deeper? Did someone cheat on you in the past and now you don't trust anyone? Is your partner giving you what you need to feel secure? Once you realize where the feelings are coming from, you can address fixing the problem. </li> <li> <b>Resist making accusations</b>. Approach your partner calmly, without being defensive. Tell him/her the problem. Don't be accusing or they will become defensive and yes, you will end up in an argument. If you find it's easier to write it in a letter, then do so. Leave while they read it so you aren't hovering over them, waiting for their reaction. Let them process what you have said. Again, do not be accusing. Tell them you want to make your relationship better. Have suggestions for BOTH of you, not just them. Be sure you know the core problem and aren't just mentioning a symptom. </li> <li> <b>Refrain from insulting your partner during arguments.</b> Fighting dirty can quickly become a habit and eventually someone will say something that the other person cannot forget, or worse, forgive. </li> <li> <b>Take time to tell your partner why you love him/her.</b> Not once, but often. This can be something as small as a compliment on how they look. Your partner needs to know you appreciate them. Don't just assume they know. Everyone likes to be reminded they are loved.</li> <li> <b>Be supportive and look for ways to give your partner the things they need the most.</b> Even if they don't tell you what they need, you can figure it out if you pay attention. Some people have a hard time telling you what they need but there are clues. If you're not sure, ask. </li> <li> <b>Don't neglect yourself.</b> If your needs aren't being met, find a way to let your partner know. If you are unhappy, you will eventually blame your partner. It's much easier to let them know, in a positive way, the things you need.</li> <li> <b>Never try to solve a problem when you are angry.</b> Take time to cool down. I know this can seem impossible at times but think about it. Is anything ever really solved when you are yelling at each other?</li> <li> <b>Set aside some time for just the two of you.</b> If not once a week, then at least once a month. This should be quality, alone time, however you two choose to spend it. You might try arranging a specific day each week and take turns planning what you will do.</li> <li> <b>Discuss decisions that affect the both of you and try to find a solution that will keep you both happy.</b> Never make an important decision that affects you both without talking to your partner.</li> <li> <b>Don't Lie!</b> Everyone lies occasionally. It's in our nature. This isn't an excuse to lie to your partner. Every time you are caught in a lie, a little more trust is taken away. A healthy relationship requires trust. Never ever lie about things important to the relationship. You're better off facing the music if you've done something wrong then being caught in a lie.</li> <li> This won't keep you together but it is important to mention. <b>Know when it's time to leave and make the break. </b> Don't let anyone use you or abuse you. Most problems can be worked out if both people in the relationship make an effort to improve things. There are some exceptions. It's time to leave if the relationship becomes abusive. Do not hope things will get better because he/she says they will change. Leave! If at some future time they actually do change, you can consider getting back together then. Another deal breaker is infidelity. If your partner cheats on you, there is a good chance that even if you do stay together, the trust that keeps a relationship alive will be gone. I'm not saying you can't survive it, but it will take a great deal of effort from both people and your partner will have to stop. Never give them more than one chance to do so or you will be setting yourself up for a very destructive emotional roller coaster. If your partner sees that it's possible to cheat and you will keep forgiving, why would they change?</li> </ol>

©2005 Patricia Fason

Women With Children

Do not reject a woman with a child or two out of hand. There are many reasons for this situation. First, almost all Russians get married between the ages of eighteen and twenty-two.

Like any marriage where people get married at a young age, people can grow apart, as they get older.

Alcoholism, disenchantment with the responsibility of family life, the allure of available women outside marriage, the economic and political upheaval that has taken place over the past fifteen years, have all taken a toll on marriages in Russia.

Consider that many of the Russian women you will meet, who do not have children, may well have been married before. Maybe you have been married before yourself.

Consider that children raised in Russia often are better behaved than American children.

Also, there is a higher percentage of young widows in Russia than in western countries. Safety standards at work in Russia are not what they are in the west.

Making a living in the new economy can be downright hazardous if you are trying to take the fast track to success. Many people are jealous of the lifestyle of the

Who

When it comes to healthy love relationships, we just may be cheating ourselves out of a lifetime of romance and passion. This article is going to help you get back on track!

Nothing is as exciting as New Love! The sunshines even when it's raining and every minute you spend with your beloved is filled with energy and excitement. You just can't get enough of each other. Well, what happened? Why and when did Mr./Ms. Perfect, turn into Mr./Ms. Okay?

Beyond serious dysfunctions such as abuse or addictions, I'm about to let you in on some secrets that will put Relationship Counselors out of business. Even myself, but I'm willing to take that risk! First we are going to look at where you've allowed your life to go. We'll get to your partner later.

When you first fell in love, you were also in love with the way you felt. Putting your best face forward was a high priority. You took time preparing yourself to be with your beloved. Your self-esteem was heightened in the process. It wasn't the other person improving your self-esteem. You were doing it for yourself by taking time to take very good care of you. Spend some time reflecting on those days, reliving those feelings, especially how you were feeling about yourself at the time.

When you are done with your reflections, answer the following questions. No one will see your answers, so you can be brutally honest with yourself:

· When did you start cheating on yourself?

· When did you allow the care you were taking of yourself to slip into the daily doldrums?

· Did you start gaining weight, or otherwise begin to let yourself go?

· Did you start losing your manners?

· Did the cold reality of life edge out the fantasy and flowers?

· Did that self-esteem you felt for yourself get lost somewhere along the line?

· How are you treating yourself and others today?

How do you feel about the questions you answered? Did you find an area that you might want to focus on for self-improvement?

It's time to start falling in love with you all over again; this is one of the biggest secrets. There are no worthy excuses. Even if you have kids, two jobs, pets, and a busy social calendar, you still have time for yourself

10 Tips for Seniors Dating

First dates can be uncomfortable situations and they can end up being painfully awkward at the very least. So how do you handle it?

Below are 10 tips to help you and your date get started as painless as possible:

1. Drive yourself. Don't meet at each other's house. Just in case you want to end the date early, you'll have the option of leaving and not feel trapped. You'll also not open your self up for the impulse to invite your date in. Safety is also an issue to consider. Having your own car helps to insure this. You don't want your date to know where you live, especially if it wasn't a pleasant experience. Which helps to avoid a date turning into a stalking nightmare.

2. Keep it simple First dates can create jittery nerves. Jittery nerves and complex plans do not mix. Make it simple and fun.

3. Men, be as polite as possible when ending the date, express to her that you're interested. This first impression will make you stand out.

4. Women, don't wear anything provocative or too sexy. This sounds like an old cliché but first impressions last. Your date won't know anything about you except for how you look and how you behave. He will take you at face value and giving him the wrong impression on what sort of person you are is not something you want to do.

5. Try and wear clothing that makes you confident and that you are comfortable wearing. It will be uncomfortable enough without worrying about that tightness around your waist or the itchy necktie.

6. Men, try to be specific about where you are going for the date. This will make the entire affair more comfortable and it prepares your date for what to expect and what to wear. Wearing a cocktail dress to a fast food joint is definitely out!

7. Ask your date about himself/herself. A healthy interest in getting to know your date is a good sign to show. This means that you want to learn about and think of your date as an interesting person. Remember, the most interesting conversationalists are those who ask about others. Great topics are work, hobbies and sports. Just keep it light and conversational.

8. Try not to overdo the perfume or the cologne. Too strong and the scent can be quite distracting. It's very hard to complete an evening out if your date is dazed by the smell.

9. Mouthwash is important. Also, brush your teeth and bring a couple of mints if you're eating out.

10. And always remember… have fun and be yourself!

As you can see Tips For Seniors Dating is not at all different than any other dating tips. Seniors are people too! The same rules apply to all.

The Most Effective Way To Pick Up A Woman

Here's the mindset you should have if you really want to be successful when it comes to dating and meeting women.

Firstly, take all the things that your mom & dad ever taught you about how to treat and date a woman and do the exact OPPOSITE!

It's not a secret anymore that even though a woman constantly says that all she wants is a nice, sweet, and caring guy in their life, often times they're actually lying to themselves — without them even realizing it!

It's true!

Seriously.

In the movies, yes, the girl always falls for the nice guy, but in real life, especially more so if you really want to be able be with as many women as possible in your lifetime - the nice guy route will get you nowhere and you'll end up getting nothing but rejections.

I'm not going to go into the details on the 'why' part of it because most of you might have already know about it.

But what I AM going to talk about today is why do women, especially attractive ones can act rather 'bitchy' and rude sometimes and how you can effectively pick up one - with ease.

First of all, you have to understand that attractive women, they get 'hit on' one way or another at least 10 times a day everyday - consistently.

Now at first it may all seem happy and nice with them receiving all the attention from the guys, and sure they can be all cutesy and polite to them whenever they're being approached but after a while, it all tends to get rather irritating and annoying - merely because they're hearing the same ol' lines, howlings and perv stares over and over again.

Exact words from a woman's mouth - not mine.

So what they do about it?

Well in order for them to 'save time', they would then be 'forced' to be more 'to the point' or as we like to call it 'bitchy' to the guys that approach them.

Why must they be so mean?

Simply because they HAVE to.

You see, if they weren't mean enough, guys who are usually thick-skinned will not get the point and they'll keep on pursuing UNTIL she says a firm no.

Makes sense?

How do I know this? Well, to be honest with you, it was merely by chance. I didn't get any of it at first until I started to really mix with women.

Sometimes, it's really good to have close girl friends because you might learn a LOT from them. I now begin to see it all from THEIR perspective now…

How to approach a woman?

Now, I've noticed that most guys (the majority of them actually), whenever they approach a woman, they always start off by saying something like 'Hi there, you're gorgeous, oh by the way, my name's John, what's yours? I'd like to get to know you, bla bla bla…"

Heard of such a line before?

Or probably something along these lines?

Now, think about it. If you're a girl and you get asked the same question about 5-10 times a day, do you think that there's a high chance that you'll get immune to it?

Of course you would!

And I'm not guessing here because I had a girl friend who once told me the same thing that I'm telling you now!

It's just too 'typical' for them to receive such lame, everyday 'pick up' lines.

Best thing is, do you know instead what they would rather hear?

Try this:

Go up to her, and just give her a funny compliment on something she LEAST expects to get a compliment on (NEVER compliment her looks, she's immune to that, remember?), you can compliment on her funky hairstyle, her heels, her big ears — anything.

Just as long as its something she LEAST expects to hear from a guy.

Using humour is always good in picking up women. Humor added with a bit of spunk, along with a spot-on sarcastic tone and body language will definitely seal the deal for you — and get her interested.

Surely.

Think about it.

This works.