How To Get A Woman

How to get a women is a bit of a vague question but I do believe I know what you wish to know, how about if I was to refine the question from "how to get a woman" to "how to approach and get dates with women", this is definitely something I can help you with.

In this article I am going to share some tips on how to do this and some the important factors that I think you should be working on if you wish to get more dates with women, here are the tips:

Don't hesitate on the approach - You know what I mean, you see a hot women and you really want to talk with her but you just can't seem to get yourself over there, you keep thinking about what you are going to say or what could go wrong, well, this is a terrible way to think, why? Because you'll probably never be able to actually approach a women you want to talk to if you think like this all the time. Next time you see someone you want to approach, just go for it and hope for the best.

Bo confident - Women like men who are confident in themselves, you should be as confident as you possibly can when you approach women for dates, now, this doesn't mean you should be too forward or rude or anything like that but just let her know that you are the prize and that you think highly enough of yourself to belive that she should want to date you, just be confident.

Be funny - There's nothing worse than some boring, quiet and dull person comes up and tries to talk with you, is there? Well this is exactly the same as how women feel, you should make her think that she's going to have a great time with you, make her think that dating you would be lots and lots of fun, if she thinks this then she will be more likely to say yes, it's pretty obvious that a women would rather have fun than be bored, right?

These are just a few tips on how to get a woman and I hope you have picked up some helpful information from this article, remember, if you truly want to be able to get hot women and lots of dates, you can do it.

Will it be AdultFriendFinder or Match? 10 Tips for Finding the Best Online Dating Site for You

Question: What could Match.com, eHarmony, and AdultFriendFinder possibly have in common and why do you care? Answer: They are all online dating sites designed with a very specific objective and person in mind. Fact is, an amazing number of people sign up to the wrong dating site and wonder why it doesn't work for them… So, if you are looking for a serious relationship, don't you think it would be a mistake to join AdultFriendFinder? Yes, it may be fun to look around and flirt, etc., but are you really being honest with yourself and with the other members of that site?

eHarmony is intended for people looking for a long-term, serious relationship, A.K.A. "looking for marriage".

AdultFriendFinder is intended for people looking for a casual, and in most cases, a sexual relationship, A.K.A. "not looking for marriage".

Match.com falls somewhere in between, focusing on casual dating that may potentially turn into a long term relationship.

There are literally hundreds, even thousands, of dating sites to choose from. How do you know which ones are right for you? As you begin your search for the best online dating site, you will probably be surprised by the number of options. Online dating services are popping up daily on the internet, making the decision of choosing the "right" service a bit overwhelming.

It's well worth the extra time to find 2 or 3 dating sites that fit your personality and offer the services that you're looking for. Narrow down the list of potential online dating sites to your top 3 and then compare them to determine the pros and cons of each one. Pay particular attention to the monthly cost and features offered by each dating site.

While more and more 'free' dating sites are becoming available, most sites differentiate between free and paid memberships. In general, most dating sites will let you upload your profile and a few photos, and search through their database of profiles for free (but they may not let you see all of the details). You will most likely have to pay for any additional features.

Once you've chosen a few, sign up for each of them. It only takes a little extra time and you're sure to meet different people on each of the different sites.

Here are some excellent tips for finding a service that will best match your needs:

<ol><li>Establish a budget. Decide how much money you want to spend, and set a budget. Most online dating websites charge a recurring monthly fee, but there are a few that have a one-time membership fee, and even fewer totally free sites. Determine up front how much you want to spend so that you can narrow your choices and avoid sites that don't fit in your budget.</li><li>Ask for references. Talk to friends and family to see if they or anyone they know has had a good experience with a particular online dating website. If you don't know anyone, you can always check out an online dating guide. Just go to your favorite search engine and type in "online dating guide". You'll get plenty to choose from.</li><li>Try to choose an online dating service that has been around for a couple of years. The best way to find out how long a website has been around is to go to the website's "About Us" page where you will learn not only the date the site was started but also the company's philosophy. Another good source of information is the "FAQ", or frequently asked questions page on the website.</li><li>Do your research. Take the time to check your favorite search engines for popular dating sites. Try searching terms like "online dating", "meet someone online", or "online personals" to generate lists of potential online sites for you.</li><li>Consider specialized or niche sites. Think about any special interests or unique situations that might require a more specialized online dating website. If you are interesting in something specific like Single Parents, Christian Dating, Jewish Dating, Senior Dating, Gay Dating, or Adult Dating, make sure you include those terms in your search (see #4 above).</li><li>Determine the pros and cons of your top picks. Narrow down the list of potential online sites to your top three and compare them to determine pros and cons of each one. Compare them buy cost and features that are interesting to you such as live chat, online video, and number of members on the site.</li><li>Sign up to multiple dating sites. Don't be afraid to sign-up for multiple websites or change services if you are not satisfied. The goal is to meet new people online and enjoy the process. If a particular site is not meeting your needs, move on before you invest more of your money on a service that isn't right for you.</li><li>For safety and convenience, look for online dating services that offer onsite messaging and email services. This will allow you to communicate with people using a special email provided by the dating service instead of using your personal email or IM (instant message). You should stay anonymous, at least at first. You wouldn't walk into a bar with a name and address tag around your neck, would you? It is important, however, to use a valid email address when signing up for your account. Most dating sites give you the option to receive email notification of replies to your personal ad, and some even forward the reply right to your email box. You won't want to miss these emails! I suggest that you use a free email account, such as Yahoo Mail or Hotmail , to reduce the possibility of spam. Just remember to check your new mailbox!</li><li>Make sure the dating service offers secure payment methods. Also, look at the type of payments accepted (credit card, check, money order, PayPal, etc.) to ensure the options work for you.</li><li>Look for websites that offer free trials. Look for an online dating service that will allow you to browse profiles and photos before you join, or a service that offers a free trial period so you can talk to people that you are interested in meeting before you have to pay. This allows you to fully understand the number and types of potential matches already signed up with the service.</li></ol>

Dating Advice for Single Parents

If you're a single parent and trying to date it can be tough Thinking about dating and having the time to date sometimes seem as far apart as East is from West. Questions run through your mind…

Am I being selfish?

Do I have the time?

Who is going to watch the kids?

It's been so long. Do I even know how to date?

It can seem overwhelming and look like a far away dream if you didn't have anyone to guide you. Lucky for you , we've picked the minds of successful single dating parents and put together an action plan that will make dating fun, safe and rewarding.

The Action Plan

Your action plan is made up of five simple steps. Each step is designed to build upon the previous one. The goal is for you to spend time with quality dates that respect you and your situation. You will put your plan on paper. Why? Writing takes your plans out of the world of thought and brings it into the world of reality. Get your paper and pencil and let's begin!

Step 1. Asses your situation.

Do you really have the time to date? As a single parent your activities revolve around your kids. Caring for a even a single child is a full time effort. If you have more than one child your workload multiplies. If you decide to date you'll need to create flexibility in your weekly plans and plan in advance. It takes time to find love. If you want love…make the time. Write down the time available each week that you think you can devote to dating. Schedule it.

Step 2. What do you want?

What type of relationship do you want? Are you looking for short term relationships? Long term? Committed? Non-committed? Do you have a time line? Biological ticking clock? What type of person do you want? Tall? Short? Loves to travel? Stay at home type? Christian? Family oriented? Good family relationships? Be honest with yourself. Consult your heart and your head and create the profile of the perfect person for you. Don't leave anything out. List the qualities you admire. The type of family you want them to come from. The color of their eyes etc. The more specific the better. Make it as detailed as possible. A crystal clear target is much easier to hit than an out of focus one. Cupid has the arrow. Help him out and provide the target. Again, write it down. Once your have a clear picture of what you're looking for it's time to find them.

Step 3. Find a date.

There are three places you will go to find a great date. The first and the easiest is a dating website. Yes there are thousands of websites out there. Some great. Some not so great. Read a review of the best dating websites and choose the ones that meet your criteria and join 2-3 of them. Why 2-3? To increase your chances of a match of course. Having your profile/ad in 2-3 dating website substantially increases the odds of a great match. Successful daters play the odds in their favor. Another advantage to dating websites is that you meet people 24 hours a day. Seven days a week. You can view their profiles and if you don't like what you see…delete them! Pick only the best.

The second place you'll go for dates are your family and friends. They know you and your life circumstances. They only wish the best for you. Let them know you're looking for a date and what you're looking for (pull the profile sheet out). Let them look for you. The odds are that you'll have a date within a week. Two weeks tops.

The third place to look for dates is anywhere that you happen to be. You never know where love hangs out. Be open to new experiences and new people.

Step 4. Separate prospects from suspects.

If you followed step three you'll be getting a number of potential dates. The task now is to separate the good(prospects) from the bad(suspects).

As a dating single parent your first job is to protect yourself and your child from anyone that would do anyone of you harm. Safety will be your first screen. If you know the persons full name check to see if this person is a sex offender. Your state may have a registry where you can check for free. Better safe than sorry.

If it's a dating website candidate spend time to get to know the person via e-mail first. The rule is give just general information (no phone numbers, last names, addresses etc) until you get to know the person over a period of time. Minimum two to three months. If they can't wait that long then move them to the suspect file and delete them.

If this is a blind date from your family and friends get ALL the information you can on the person. This would be a good time to write down some questions that you'd like to ask your potential date. Nothing like being prepared. Talk on the phone first. Ask questions to determine if there is some broad based compatibility. Do you like the same things? Dislike the same things? The closer you can match these the happier you'll be.

Once you've done your homework it's time to go on a date. WooHoo!

Step 5. Date!

The first rule is be yourself. The second rule is have fun. If you can follow those two rules you'll have a great time. To ensure that you have a safe and fun time follow these rules.

1)Always let someone know who you're going out with. Where you'll be going. What time to expect you home.

2)Bring your cell phone. If you don't have a cell phone. Get one. They're cheap. No reason not to have one.

3)Always meet in a public place for your first meeting.

4)Arrange a date dump call. Arrange for someone to call you mid way through your date. Prearrange a code word to let them know that your date is going well or not. This is your opportunity to dump your date if you're bored to tears.

5)Consider having your date somewhere you can talk. Like over dinner or maybe a lunch date. Avoid movies on the first date because it doesn't allow you the opportunity to get to know someone. At a movie you get to sit silently for two hours listening to the person behind crunch popcorn and slurp their five gallon bucket of soda. How fun is that!

Being a single parent doesn't mean shutting your heart down. Despite having your kid(s) fill every minute of your waking day you still have a longing in your heart for that special someone.

If not for love…maybe just for a good adult conversation over a warm cup of coffee. Good luck in your dating!

Communicating Effectively - Say What You Mean

For me, communication is important to many things in life. Particularly in the relationships we have with the people around us at work and at home.

How often do we misinterpret what's been said or done, just because we don't know how to communicate properly? Making assumptions based on our own, perhaps narrow perspective and not taking into account what other people might be feeling or thinking.

How to communicate is something we learn early on in life and if we don't know how to do it properly or we get it wrong, it can lead to poor communication throughout the rest of our life. We fall into bad habits, feel uncomfortable having difficult conversations, avoid conflict or arguments and prefer just to keep quiet.

Learning how to talk and how to say what you feel is important in maintaining good relationships, not just in your personal life but with the people you work with. If you can't tell someone how you feel, how can you expect them to know? None of us are mind readers.

It can seem uncomfortable at first if you're not used to it and it may not come out quite as you intended. Be genuine you will be able to get the message across, as long as the person is open to what you are saying.

Always be clear in the words that you use, the tone of your voice and your body language. Think about the message you are trying to get across.

In this age of technology, with emails and text messages being used as a regular and accepted means of communication, there is even more chance for confusion and misinterpretation.

You can't communicate feelings or humour in an email or a text. You need to know someone reasonably well to know whether a comment they've made is genuine, sarcastic or insulting. I've seen many an email or text discussion being totally misinterpreted because it's been taken out of context and without the underlying feeling being known.

You can interpret a simple statement in a number of different ways just by changing the emphasis on a particular word. Using a different tone would give it a totally different meaning.

Don't use email or text for discussions where emotional is an important part of the communication. Pick up the phone or arrange for a face-to-face discussion.

An important part of communication is not only speaking but also listening and listening properly, not just waiting for them to stop speaking so you can jump in. Really listen for what they are saying, forget about how you might be feeling, put yourself in their shoes for a moment.

Whether it's in a work or personal situation, if you have something important or difficult you want to say then:

<ul><li>Set aside some time specifically to discuss it, when you're not going to be distracted or interrupted. </li><li>Explain what you're feeling and what needs to happen or what you would like to happen.</li><li>Ask for their reaction

Why Single Women Date Married Men

You're a single female who has everything except a man. This could be for many reasons. By choice is one or maybe you're a difficult person to deal with. We could go on and on for hours about what the reason is but that's not what we're here to talk about. We are here to talk about why it is that single women choose to date married men.

We've heard it all. Some single women say they date married men because it's easy and that they're not looking for a commitment at the time. Ok so, if you're not looking for a committment then why someone who is supposed to be committed for life? Why not a single guy? How easy can it be to be in a relationship with a married man? There is no way that you can just say it's only something to do from time to time. Feelings have to be factored into the equations somehow, because you didn't like him because he was easy. It was something about that man that drew you to him in the first place.

You say you want to see him from time to time. Time to time involves a lot of things such as trying to get together to see one another. Granted you may be very busy or not, but trying to see someone who's married can be very difficult either way. If you are free for the day and just need to spend time with him, you have to see if he is available. After you find out if he is or not then you have to try and work around his schedule. Sounds like a lot of work for someone who want to see someone from time to time. Once you both have figured out what his schedule is and when it is that you can see him the next move is how long you can see him.

To Be Continued…

Wedding Day DOs and DONTs

You've worked your ass off for months to make this wedding the wedding of your dreams. Everything is all set and you are ready to walk that aisle

How To Approach Women In 3 Easy Steps

In my article, "The Art of the Approach–to Life,"(available on http://www.000relationships.com/towomen/articles.php) I taught you the best ways to approach the very art of approaching: with attitude, and with choice. Decide what mindset you're going to carry into your encounters with girls, and decide what kind of girls you actually want. Once you've figured out what type of women you want, it's time to go for her. Let's find out what are some great ways to approach girls, then how to get the first date.First subject: the inevitable topic of pick-up lines. They just DON'T WORK. You know why? Because they're predictable and ordinary, the exact things girls DON'T want from a guy. When you feed a standard pickup line to her, you're communicating that you're the same as every other guy you there. Not what you want. What WOMEN want are excitement, spontaneity, surprise.They also want someone GENUINE. So when you're talking to a girl, don't look like you're copying someone's lines; talk like you just noticed her and, being confident, decided you want to pursue her.* Be open and honest; don't pretend to be someone you're not.* Use open body language-a relaxed, leaned-back body, and open arms and legs.* Direct eye contact is also CRUCIAL; looking down or away while talking just doesn't fly.* Most of all, if you're able to shock a chick with surprise-a crucial way of impressing and attracting a girl-then you're really in for a treat. Or rather, she is.Unfortunately, a lot of times you won't be able to just go up to her; you'll have to get through her group of friends, first. If you have some buddies with you, this is where the old "wingman approach" comes in handy. Make sure you and your buddy, or buddies, are on the same page as each other. Don't go into a group with differing approaches-there's nothing worse than one guy being cool and relaxed, and another being all braggadocio and stupid. Key your buddy in to how you want to approach.Approach TechniquesA lot of guys ask me, "How do I just go up to a group and start talking?" Well, let me tell you what works from past experience:1-Use Humor. I had a friend I did a schtick with that ALWAYS got us into the group. One of us would go to a girl in the group and be like, "Hey, I need your help on something. Do you think my friend Mike-or whatever your friend's name is-is gay? I mean, look at his nice shirt, nice hair, nice skin. He's gotta be gay!" Not only do girls laugh at this, but they feel they have to give their input. Nothing quite flatters like asking for advice.2-Ask questions. As in the previous example, asking a group for their opinion on something-especially something funny-is a great way to get inside the group, then get to the girl you're interested in. If you ask the question in a genuine way, and listen intently, the group of girls will feel flattered and excited. You've also given them a spark to an otherwise boring evening out. Joke about their answers, and ask more questions, and you should be in for a while.3-Develop a secret, "inside" joke. Nothing works quite like having something personal between you and a group of people. An inside joke, or a secret handshake or sign, is a great way to do things. Try saying something to the group like, "Hey, ya know, we need a secret handshake or something." Girls are all about making connections, so doing something that builds a strong foundation for friendship means guaranteed success.But the all time best method: #4-Tell a story. This is what the guy I consider to be the original master of the art of approaching: Joseph Matthews, aka Thundercat, recommends, and it works not only for groups of girls but also for one girl in particular. He says, "When you first meet a girl, it is usually a good idea to have at least 3 openers and 3 stories memorized that you can talk to them about. Be sure that the openers and stories are good, open-ended, and interactive conversation pieces. Then, you're going to STACK them."Good story-telling is definitely the best "in" to a group of girls. If you can make up a good story, like, "Hey, did you see that crazy guy in here who was dancing around in his underwear?", or "Hey, have any of you ever heard of Celtic soul-gazing?", then you should be in. You have to be convincing, and a good story-teller, but it's a great way to open up the group to outsiders. Entertainment=Results.Setting Up the First DateOkay, so now you're alone with your target, the girl you want to talk to. How do you set things up for another date? Joseph Matthews writes that no girl will go out with you on a first date without you first establishing TRUST. As he writes, "the quality of that number isn't always the best. About 90% of the time, it's a fake number the girl gave him just to get away from him, and the other 10% of the time, the girl isn't interested enough to go out with him."You have to set a TEMPO in getting the phone number. Don't rush. It's important that you come off as cool, relaxed, and confident. Guys who have those qualities are in no hurry to get a phone number because they are CONFIDENT a girl will eventually give them his number.It all begins with the basics–ABC: Always Be in Control:* In this case, be in control of yourself by being relaxed, calm, and PATIENT.* Don't worry the whole time about getting her phone number; it'll come if you act like you KNOW it will come.* Remember to show an open body that suggests you're relaxed, and confident.* Keep your hands wide, your feet open.* ALWAYS look a girl in the eye; if you don't, you've already lost. Steady eye contact conveys confidence and control over the girl.* Leaning back like you've got all the time in the world is also great; it will calm and relax her, too.Just by doing these things, your girl will see that this is a guy she SHOULD give her phone number to. The ironic thing is, the less you show you care about seeing her again, the more likely SHE'LL care and give you her phone number, or suggest you meet up another time.As Matthews writes in his free 6-day e-course, "Here's the sequence I usually follow when getting the date:1. Invite her out right then and there. Either I'll ask her what she's doing right now and if she wants to get a drink. If that's not convenient, I'll ask her if she wants to meet up later that night.2. If she says "Yes" to meeting up later, I'll then ask for her number. If she says "No," I'll still ask for her number because I like her and I want to see her again.3. Finally, I'll ask her when a good time to call is.That simple 3-step process will get you a TON of dates.Setting up the next meeting during the initial interaction is ideal. If you can't do that, get her number and try to set it up later."Practical, wise advice that you can actually use, to get results, not frustration. That's why I consider him the best pick-up artist out there. Other artists might have fancier techniques, but his actually make sense and work.There are so many ways to approach girls. Few of them are exactly right and exactly wrong; a lot of it is subjective. Guess that's why they call it the ART, not the science, of approach.For more information on the art of approaching a girl, check out Joseph Matthews' "Art of Approaching" website:http://www.artofapproaching.com

Single Christian Network

The word "network" refers to a web of connections through which people can stay in touch with each other. In such a vast world, we need networks to communicate with each other and reach out to like-minded people from our community. Hence, single Christian networks exist to enable singles to interact and know each other.

The best networks exist online or on the Internet. Such networks contain hundreds of thousands of profiles of Christian singles and allow members to browse through them, chat, send emails, e-cards, view videos, and sometimes offer some events like cruise offers.

Some networks are devoted entirely to dating and marriage, while others exist for developing friendships. Networks can either be completely Christian-owned, or owned by non-Christians.

Networks like Real Christian Singles, American Singles, Fusion 101, My Christian Matchmaker, and Dating Club offer free services and hence, Christian singles can join in for free and meet and interact with other singles members. Others such as Singlec.com, Christian Caf?Agape Christian Singles, eHarmony, Christian Soulmates, Equally Yoked charge a fee, but always offer a free trial for at least five or seven days. Some even offer a fourteen-day free trial period. All Personals is another network which allows access to several dating networks all for a single membership charge.

All networks usually allow their members to browse through personal profiles of other members and then chat with selected ones. eHarmony is a network which even chooses completely compatible and like-minded people by matching questionnaires which members have to fill out first at joining the network.

Besides online networking services, clubs and local organizations make excellent single Christians networks too. Clubs like the Catholic Alumni Clubs International, which has almost thirty clubs located all around in United States, helps its members to effectively interact by holding a national convention. Hundreds of Christian singles gather together to enjoy the various events such as dancing, concerts, sports, lunches, seminars etc.

Local organizations also invite Christian singles to be a part of their events which consists of dinners, Bible study, discussions and much more. Confidential Christian Introductions, Christian Caf?and Solid Rock Singles are some examples of such organizations.

How To Bring Delight and Joy To The People You Love With Amazingly Free Greeting Cards

In today's modern world where everything comes with a price tag, there are some things in life that no amount of money can buy and one of which is the sheer joy and delight of seeing our loved ones happy and contented or the overwhelming fullness of loving and being cared for. These mood-lifting emotions can be shared to our loved ones in various means and manners. One of which is sending of greeting cards.

It is our common belief that greeting cards are meant for special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. Cards for Christmas, New Year, Thanksgiving and Halloween signify changes in seasons from autumn to fall, winter and summer. However, the thought and message expressed in greetings cards are the things that really matters. Sending and receiving of greeting cards can root down to one point

Let Them See You Shine

First and foremost, when it comes to having an intimate relationship, one must be comfortable with oneself. If you hate being alone, it usually has something to do with not liking who you are. If you don't like/love yourself, how can you expect someone else to? A lover, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever should compliment you, rather than complete you. If your only goal in life seems to be to find a significant other, because you don't feel whole, than it is more than likely that you will use that person as an escape from you and your reality. Work on getting to know yourself and the traits that you find you are proud of. Make a list, if you have to…a list of all the things you think are wonderful about yourself. Those are the traits that others will be drawn to. Look at yourself in the mirror on a regular basis and see yourself without any barriers…the you that you should be letting others see, not the one you try to portray.

Do your homework i.e. ask your friends (your real friends) and your family to honestly tell you (no holds barred) what they find so endearing about you. Compare their answers to your own and see if they match. If they don't, take a close look at what they see. Decide what you love about yourself; take those traits and play them up.

If you are a woman and have mesmerizing, sexy eyes, make them pop. Remember when batting your eyelashes was synonymous with flirting? Experiment with make-up and make those eyes shine! Don't overdo it…just help them out a bit. Most men don't go for the whole "made-up" look, but a small amount in the right colors, strategically placed, will give your eyes that "come hither" look. Your eyes play a huge role in flirting. If you use face make-up, use as little as possible, while still covering up any problem areas you might have. When it comes to blush, just a tad, to give you a natural sun-kissed glow. Don't end up with clown cheeks…not attractive. Lipstick and gloss should be close to your natural lip color and not match your fire engine red shoes. One's mouth is a flirting mecca. Remember, if the relationship becomes serious, that new man in you life is going to see you sans make-up, and you don't want it to be a shocker when your face is naked. I remember I once had this boyfriend that I wanted to look great for all the time. When the relationship advanced to the point where he was spending the night with me, I used to slip quietly out of bed, very early in the morning and apply a little bit of make-up (I hadn't taken it off from the night before), and run a little water through my hair (mine is naturally curly and there is no waking up with day ready hair) and climb back into bed. I don't know how I kidded myself into thinking he believed I woke up every morning looking so damn good. Maybe I thought he was that stupid. Okay, so maybe he was. If you're a man with gorgeous blue eyes, wear a shirt that will make them bluer. Don't be afraid of something new. Find out what colors complement your complexion and wear them.

If you like that you are straight forward with people and opinionated, realize that it takes a certain kind of person to be able to have a relationship with someone like that. My first husband loved that about me when we first got together, and then years later he changed his mind. He wanted me to change, because my personality suddenly made him unhappy. I took stock of myself and decided that my strength and honesty were things I really liked about myself, and I wasn't willing to change to placate him. The marriage didn't survive. He wanted me to "put a muzzle on it", which I wasn't willing to do. Be strong. Be Confident. Don't kowtow to someone else. Live your life in a way that makes you feel comfortable and proud.

On the other hand, if there are things about you that YOU feel need work on; that perhaps you aren't so proud of, work on them…hone them…fine tune them. If you find, in retrospect, that you are a half empty kind of guy/gal, consciously try to become the half full type. It may take a bit of work, but you can do it. This one takes a little effort, especially if you've been a pessimist most of your life. Start with trying to find something good in every situation, especially those that make you unhappy. You will find that if you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, instead of the proverbial black cloud hanging over your head, you will slowly become more of an optimist. And once that happens, you will also find that your life becomes more pleasant, more of the time. The fact is that others can see that black cloud as well. Let them see you shine instead! Soon you may find that it's easier to "roll with the punches", "go with the flow", let things "roll off your back" like a duck does water and consequently that load on your shoulders will become lighter. You will feel better and it will rub off on others. You'll also have a lot more fun flirting!

So, take stock of yourself…get to know the you that you want others to know…become comfortable with that person, learn to love that person, and get out there and knock 'em dead!

Happy Dating! Happy Flirting!