Falling In Love With Singaporean Girls.

A few months ago I noticed a beautiful Asian girl in my school. I am a white guy living in Portland, Oregon, but I have known many Asian people and have studied Chinese for a few years.

Anyway, I learned from a classmate that she was from Singapore. She seemed very shy and it seemed like she could not speak English well.

I asked my friend about her and he told me she was an exchange student. Since it was nearly the end of the year I decided not to attempt to ask her out or even talk to her.

I would see her everyday in school though, and I could not help looking at her she was so beautiful.

As the weeks went by we made more and more eye contact, but being kind of awkward with girls I have never met and not being very knowledgeable on female flirting tactics I thought that she was just making eye contact with me because I couldn't stop staring at her.

One day she actually came up to me though and after apologizing a lot for bothering me she asked if I would please accept a piece of paper with her name and number on it and in return give her mine.

I was very surprised to say the least. American girls never would approach me in that way. Specially they would not apologize for wanting to give me their number; I'm usually the one who has to beg for the girl's number.

We exchanged numbers, and after the reality set in that the girl I have been dreaming about for months had just made a move towards me I became very excited and called her as soon as I got home.

I learned that she was an exchange student and was not allowed to have a boyfriend but was very interested in me and did not care about the rule since it was the end of the year.

After dating a while I took her to a dance club for her 18th birthday. We connected so well because she could communicate easily with me using a mix of English and Chinese.

We simply loved being with one another. At first I didn't want to get serious because I knew she would leave me and return to Singapore soon, but she was so amazing that I had to try to be with her so I asked her if she wanted to get serious and try for a long term (and soon to be long distance) relationship.

She was overjoyed that I asked her and we kissed and hugged for a couple of hours. We were together a few months and in that time together we had a strong and intimate relationship.

She has been the most amazing lover I have ever had and could not imagine intimacy being better with anyone else.

We decided to try to stay together and she is very devoted to me. We use electronic means to stay in touch and visit each other every few months.

I love her more than anything else and want to make her happy. She is not used to guys treating her the way I treat her.

She says that her ex-boyfriends in Singapore would never say, "I love you" or be so gentle in bed. She said that that is why she is so shy. We are not getting married next year.

My message to other men and women out there who are in relationships like this is that they should stay positive because such relationships do work.

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Managing Miscommunication - Asking The Agreement Question(tm)

A man and woman were trying to move a couch in their home one fine morning, and were not meeting with much success. With mounting frustration in her voice, the woman said "Honey, I don't think we are ever going to get this couch out of the living room." To which he responded, "Out of the living room? I thought we were trying to get it into the living room!"

Many people, myself included, have written and talked about how to handle and resolve conflicts in a relationship. While that is all well and good, what about preventing them in the first place?

I've worked with many couples who have had a discussion about what to do about something and thought they were in agreement. Then one of them acted on those thoughts, only to find out that the other person thought just the opposite was agreed upon. This can create a nice breeding ground for a big fight.

This is where what I have come call the AWIA Approach comes in handy. AWIA stands for Are We In Agreement?

The idea is to end conversations with the question "Are We In Agreement?" As I have had couples practice this one, and as I've used it in my own little laboratory at home, I've found that many times couples think they are in agreement when they are not. Asking the AWIA question cuts through any miscommunication and can cut off any future misunderstanding and conflict.

So give it a try. End the next few conversations with "Are We In Agreement" and see if you like the results.

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The Hottest Tend in Dating: Speed Dating

Let's start by explaining what is it exactly Speed Dating. This can be arranged individually or by an organization as a Speed Dating Party with many people. The principle is the same, You participate in a fast round of short (few minutes per date) but with as many as 25 partners per session. This Fast Dating method is quiet efficient and rewarding alike.

Usually in few minutes, sometimes only three minutes you get to see your potential date, get a short impression from his/her looks, voice, accent, dress, self confidence and self esteem, few background information, enough for you and for them to make a go, no go quick decision which you can discreetly mark on a small card according to their tag identification Number.

Usually these speed dating sessions are taken place at a cool fun bars. Arranged with tables for two, ready for these multi mini dates sessions. Each participant is seated in front of his date and when the host is blowing the whistle it is the signal it is time to move on to the next date. It goes on and on until you finish all your mini dates.

When you get home, you input the codes names of the partners you liked into the online dating system, you get a second chance to see their pictures and refresh your memory. After each participant inputted his selections the system makes the final matching of the preferences of all participants. Hopefully, at the end of this computerized process you get a list of potential dates you liked and like wise were interested in you.

Now, it's up to you to send an email to a partner and set a real quality date. This time there is no stress as you both acknowledged your mutual attraction for each other.

It's no wonder this method is a hit as it has some notable advantages over some other ways to meet people, like blind dates and pick-up bars. Just imagine, you arrive to a blind date with high hopes only to discover in as little as 15 seconds you are not attracted at all to the date partner. Since you are such a good hearted boy and you don't want to disappoint your date you go out together to a movie and spend some more time and money in a caf?hen you know it has no future what so ever. Not only that, think about it, you would have spent that time and money 25 times!

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