Get Women to Pick You Up: Flirting and Seduction
Many times a student will ask me about picking up women at work, or some other place where it would be inappropriate for him to 'hit on' a woman. In situations where a man doesn't want to get a 'reputation', it is much better to take a more indirect route. In other words, through careful flirting, a man can get women to advance the relationship and pick him up instead. <b>Specifically, we will use eye contact as a means of flirting, and false barriers to get women to make the first move.</b>
In this type of situation, we are displaying tenative interest. Tenative interest not only a great way to generate attraction, but it also creates a wonderful opportunity for some fun flirting. What you should be thinking is "I like what I see, but do you REALLY meet my standards?" Adopt this frame, and practice it next time you're interacting with a woman. I guarantee you'll get women to react a bit more favorably. They will want to meet your standards, and you'll get women qualifying themselves to you.
Great flirting requires mastery of eye contact. Here are guidelines for eye contact flirting:
1. When a woman is acting favorably to you, or you have a fun vibe happening, keep solid eye contact. In this way you reward her, and she will do more of what you like.
2. As things progress and you are alone with a woman, stick to the 70 / 30 rule. This states that 70% of the time you should be holding eye contact, and 30% of the time, you should not. This sets the stage to get women comfortable with you and ready for seduction.
3. When you are saying something funny, it's better to not hold eye contact. In this way it doesn't appear that you are seeking approval for your jokes.
4. If you are making a move physically and touching her, do not hold strong eye contact. This signals to her that you aren't seeking her approval for you escalation.
5. When approaching a group for the first time, and you are talking, balanace eye contact throughout the various men and women in the group. The idea is to get women involved in your conversation, but at the same time you keep your interest on a tenative level.
6. Never use your own eye contact in attempt to get women to hold eye contact with you. She should be trying to get eye contact with you more than you are with her. To do this effectively, it shouldn't be something that you focus on too much. Remember, this is flirting, and it should be fun.
Once you have the tenative interest mindset down, and are good at fliritng, you will set up a really fun vibe between you and the woman. At this point, you want to put up a false barrier to give her something to overcome.
Here are some examples of false barriers. One friend of mine is a DJ, and gets gigs at parties There are plenty of beautiful women at these parties, but he doesn't want to break the professional relationship. He can demonstrate his interest in a responsible way by saying: "Hey. I like you but you're going to get me in trouble! I have a job to do!"
Or, if an attractive woman comes up to request a song he can say something like "At first I thought you were cute, but then you asked me to play X! Can you do any better?" Again, this is flirting, and it should be playful.
In a more general work situation you can say something like: "You know, you are so adorable. Good thing we're co-workers, or else we'd be getting into all kinds of trouble." Then sit back and watch as she works like the devil to plot some 'trouble' for the two of you.
Remember, these are false barriers, and in order for them to work, you must first get women interested through your flirting. When a woman is interested enough, barriers give her just the push she needs to motivate her into making a move. So the key is, get women into your playful vibe with flirting, then playfully throw up the barrier. You'll be surprised just how easy it really is.
Filed under Uncategorized | Comment (0)Finding Time For Romance
In this day and age who can find time for themselves let alone their main squeeze. If you find yourself wrapped up in the toils of everyday life and yearn for more sweet lovin' then here is some advice to follow. First and foremost, make time. No excuse will do, we can all spare at least one hour a day to prioritize on the people who matter most in our lives. Put aside cleaning the fridge, washing your car or going shopping, a dirty house will never be more important than a healthy loving relationship.
Create your own couple's ritual to savor on a daily basis. Either sit down for tea or coffee after the dishes are done and catch up on daily events, even if you can only spare 10 minutes. Keep a chalk board by the door and make a habit of writing one note a day to each other before leaving for work. You don't have to be Shakespeare, a simple "I love you" or a zany "later, sweet cheeks" are sure to brighten your darling's day.
Never underestimate the importance of doing the little things. You don't need to perform huge romantic acts on a daily basis. Drawing your partner a bath, picking up a C.D they wanted or rubbing your partners aching feet are romantic gestures that reassert a nurturing bond.
Freeing up quality time can be as easy as turning off the T.V or Computer for one hour to go for a walk around the block. Plan to at least have one date out of the house each month, try a new restaurant or pub. If your partner is a workaholic and chained to they're desk then meet them for a lunch date instead of dinner or set aside a designated time to chat on-line. One sure fire way of having time for romance is by participating in a hobby you both enjoy. Choose a martial art's class, bowling league, playing pool or joining a gym together.
Once you've found the time for each other, you'll agree that nothing else matters, not the job or the chores or the T.V series you had to tune into. Enjoy your life with the person you love! after all… the couple that plays together, stays together!
Filed under Uncategorized | Comment (0)How to Write Your Own Personal Ad
Writing a personal ad is like writing a love letter, a poem dedicated to your future life partner. You're essentially writing an ad seeking someone who could and would live the rest of their life loving you, for better or for worse. While there are no real SECRETS to writing a good personal ad, there are good personal ads, there are bad personal ads and then there are the SMASHING ones! It's a guess that you want to write a smashing personal ad that brings you people who are looking for you. you don't want any Tom, Dick and Harry or Mary, Jane and Barbie. When writing your personal ad, your focus should be on finding someone who suits you and likes you for what you are. So, the number one rule about writing your own personal ad is to be as positive and honest as possible.
Remember, words mean very little in a personal ad. The most important thing about writing your own personal ad is that you should try, in every single way possible, to prove and show that you have whatever it is that you say you have. For instance, if you say you are a positive person with a healthy sense of humor, show it, write it that way. Don't just say it because people reading your personal ad will try to read between the lines.
If you are a writer and is adept in writing poems, use it creatively. The conventional personal ad is boring and after reading through about 30, the person reading the personal ad is probably numb with the flood of self-praise there. Instead, write your own personal ad in a creative way
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