How To Ask A Woman On A Date
This article will show you <b>how to ask a woman on a date</b>. Things to do, and things not to do, plus other valuable information.
First of all, women instinctively know when you're asking them "out out", as in you're asking them because you have a "romantic interest".
When you do this it ALSO puts the woman in the driver's seat in the situation, because she instantly realizes that she has something you want. Have you ever heard of "wanting it tax"? It's when the price goes up the more you want it.
Most guys do the exact same things. They start talking to a woman, then say "Hey, can I take you out sometime?" or "Do you have a boyfriend?".
Put simply, this is NOT how to ask a woman on a date. It makes you look like a wuss boy that needs a girlfriend. And if she's not interested (which she probably won't be), then it WILL create some discomfort in the future.
<B>Here are some GOOD things to do in preparation and to practice while learning how to ask a woman on a date:</B>
1. Hold yourself upright. Think of how you'd hold yourself if you were the most confident person in the world.
2. Move slowly. Gesture slowly. Speak slowly. Blink slowly. This communicates comfort and confidence.
3. Pause often. Only respond if you choose to. Remember, you don't need to react or respond to anything that you don't want to. Women often try to push you off balance. Don't fall for it. Stay cool, and pause if you need to in order to keep your composure- espcially true if your first learning how to ask a woman on a date or you're the timid type.
Being cool or "indifferent" sets you apart INSTANTLY from all the loser guys who are saying "Hi, you're really pretty. Can I take you out on a date?"
<B>Here are some BAD things to avoid doing when learning how to ask a woman on a date. Practice these and you'll amaze yourself:</B>
1. Talking too fast or too much. This communicates that you're nervous and sketchy (unless you're telling a really interesting story, or you have integrated fast talking into your personality in an interesting way, of course).
2. Nervous gestures, laughs, ticks, etc. I've met many guys who laugh nervously after just about everything they say. This is the DEATH of attraction. It instantly communicates insecurity.
3. Breaking eye contact. At first, you need to maintain eye contact until SHE breaks it. This establishes at an unconscious level that you're not afraid.
If it's a woman you know, tease her, bust on her, and generally act like you don't care. Make a comment about her and walk away. Be Cocky & Funny when you're with her, and don't be boring.
Then, if she's responding positively (laughing, hitting you, telling you that you're a pain, etc.), then say "Hey, do you have email?"
If she does, have her write it down, then say "Bye".
From a MAN'S perspective this might not seem any different than just asking a woman out on a date.
But from the WOMAN'S perspective it's VERY different.
First of all, you've never shown her any romantic interest, which doesn't give up your power in the situation, and hand it all to her. Learning how to ask a woman on a date is about "indifference".
Second, instead of putting "dating" pressure on her, you've only asked her for her email address (and maybe her number as well).
But you HAVEN'T asked her on a date, you HAVEN'T created any kinds of weird vibes in the air, and you HAVE made her wonder what you have in mind.
So to sum it up, being indifferent, playful, funny, and calm is how to ask a woman on a date, and that will take you to the next level.
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"I don't do relationships…but we can still hang out if you like"
"I don't want a relationship…so if you still want to hang out that's great, but if not that's cool too"
There is no reason to lie, spin, or redirect the topic. You just lay it out simply and clearly. You are not being crude. Everyone knows that no-relationship implies something casual, so there is no reason to spell it out. It only becomes a problem if that person reacts badly and starts getting defensive. In this case you cut your losses and move on. They accept your frame and there is no room for discussion. Therefore there is no room for debate on:
"I'm not easy you know"
"I don't want a relationship either, but I should tell you I don't sleep with guys on the first date"
These might seem like reasonable objections but they are not. Accepting them or trying to compromise means that you are not firm in your beliefs and that makes you weak. Simply cut your losses and move on. It is obvious that person wants the upper hand. People all over are meeting and interacting with no agenda whatsoever, so there is no reason to feel that you are doing anything wrong. So stick to your guns and stick with those people who fit in with your plans. You will be much happier because of it.
Copyright © 2006 Vittorio Norman
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