How to Select Motels and Hotels for Romance with Single Women
This week I want to give you some valuable advice about taking single women to motels/hotels.
At some point in your pursuit of romance you will have opportunities to take women on out of town trips or just to a local motel for some lovemaking.
I want you to be aware that it's very critical to a woman what the motel looks like and more importantly what the room looks like. A lot us men could care less if a motel looks like a dive. However, it's very important to the ladies.
The most important advice I can give you is to never pay for a room without looking at it first because the room may be a real turn-off for the woman you are with and I'll tell you why:
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<LI>It may smell musty and trust me, women have very strong sense of smell.</LI>
<LI>Have see-through curtains which will make her feel uncomfortable thinking that someone could see what is going on in the room.</LI>
<LI>A hard or lumpy mattress.</LI>
<LI>Stains on the carpet.</LI>
<LI>Walls that need painting.</LI>
<LI>A room that's old and outdated and needs to be remodeled.</LI>
<LI>Mold or leak stains on the ceiling tiles.</LI>
<LI>Cracks in the walls.</LI>
<LI>Ugly bedspreads, etc.</LI> </UL>
I'm sure you get the picture. With the reputable motel and hotel chains you usually don't run into these problems. In my experience, motels that are run by individuals and not chains can really be dumps on the inside. Also those motels that have discount coupons in travel publications can be very disappointing. They use discount coupons to lure you to their motels. In this case there's a lot of truth to old saying, "You get what you pay for." To make the best impression on the woman you take to motels or hotels, take them to a reputable motel or hotel chain. They have a reputation to uphold and want to give you a nice room and amenities so you will come back. Go ahead and spend the extra bucks for a quality place to stay because it will be worth it.
Here's some more tips on selecting a place to impress the ladies:
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<LI>Offers Continental Breakfast.</LI>
<LI>Hair dryers in the room so she can dry her hair after taking a shower.</LI>
<LI>Coffee maker in the room.</LI>
<LI>Nice swimming pool and jacuzzi.</LI> </UL>
Also, don't let them give you a room next to an elevator. People make noise when waiting for the elevator or when coming out. Also, some elevators make a beeping noise when they stop at your floor (This can awaken you when you are trying to sleep). Even worse, don't let them give you a room next to a ice-maker. The machines can be noisy and people are always going back and forth at all hours and this can make a lot of noise that can interfere with you getting a good night's sleep.
There you have it. Some rules to follow when selecting a motel or hotel to impress the lady you are with. You certainly want them to be happy with your selection to keep them in a romantic mood. If they are disgusted and turned off by their environment this can make her uncomfortable and spoil your chances for romance.
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Since the advent of the Internet, online dating seems to be the next generation of falling in love and getting married.
With online dating, it seems that no one needs to be alone anymore. Everybody is bound to find the right man or woman through the help of online dating services. Best of all, online dating provides additional services that no other services can provide; and, because of the many interactive features that most online dating sites give, more and more people are being enticed to try it out.
One of the greatest advantages of online dating is that it gives the person anonymity. Since, other people are not fully aware of how an individual looks and what kind of person they are dealing with; anonymity becomes a powerful tool in the process of interaction with other people.
With anonymity, most people are able to say what they usually cannot disclose if done personally. In addition, most people have a lot of time analyzing their dates first before they decide to meet them in person. In this way, they get to know who the person is, his or her personality, or what does he or she looks like even if it is only through pictures.
However, anonymity can also be too powerful that some people use this as one way of gaining the other person's attention through deceptions and lies.
Therefore, for people who wish to know how to identify if the other person they are dating online is not telling the truth or is deceiving them, here are some ways to detect such unscrupulous activity.
1. People who are into online dating should be wary of those who exaggerate or evade things that are too obvious not to notice.
This only means that the other person is trying to hide something. People who do these kinds of things can be very deceiving especially if the other person cannot easily detect the "symptoms of lying."
Moreover, people who usually exaggerate may suggest that he or she is trying to cover something that is why they make an effort to change the topic at once.
2. Inconsistency
There are instances that some people usually tell stories of different varieties during a date online. Throughout the course of the activity, there are those who would keep on yakking about certain things and when they are asked to tell the same story all over again the next time the couples meet online, some discrepancies happen. The facts are no longer consistent with those that were mentioned before.
Therefore, these things would only suggest that the person is, indeed, deceiving his or her online date.
3. If the other person does not reveal too much of his or her personal information or anything about him or her, chances are, he or she may be deceiving their online dates.
In reality, there is no harm on not revealing anything about certain information. In fact, it is one way of dating safely online.
However, there are situations wherein an individual has to know something about his or her date just to gain a little knowledge about the other person. This usually includes basic information like name, age, likes or dislikes, and other light information that could give the concerned person some solid basis of the person.
So, for people who do not reveal much about who they are, it means that they are hiding something.
4. Intuitions
It may be too vague or too amusing to believe on intuitions. Nevertheless, there are many cases and stories wherein people who rely on their intuitions usually get positive results.
Intuitions are things that are known to exist without the support of some rational basis. Hence, if a person feels that his online date is not telling the truth, then, chances are, the person may not be telling the truth after all.
Experts say that through intuitions, the individual's subconscious thought can identify inconsistencies that are not easily noticed. This can be very helpful especially when somebody is skilled enough to be consistent on his or her lies for a long time.
5. It would be better for some people to ask their online date to have a chat using a web cam. In this way, they will both each other's looks, personalities, and other things that can only be verifiable through web cams.
Here, an individual can detect a person who is trying to deceive him or her when he or she does not want to use a web cam or if there are just too many excuses.
The bottom line is that, if the other person has nothing to lie about, then, everything must be kept simple and straightforward. There should be no beating around the bush while answering some questions.
In reality, online dating that is free from any deceptions should be simple and based on truth, no more, no less.
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Before you start for your first date, do you go through this exercise of presuming and expecting? that the person will behave in a particular way, he/she will dress in a typical manner. It could well be that you approach this person, thinking the end result will all be negative and nothing much is going to come of it. You are unconsciously judging and comparing this new date with someone who has made an indelible impression in your mind. Nobody compares to him/her. Or may be, this whole concept of dating is all wrong and fruitless.
It's a good guess, that you could be harboring one of these feelings. If that be so, can you just think what damage you are doing to yourself, the date and the whole new prospect of a new relationship? You have created certain fixed notions about what he/she would be like, what he/she should talk or not talk, and there it is.
It's all fixed and no body can move you an inch from those pre-determined judgments. What results from such fixed feelings is that it gets the better of you and sooner or later, and you make the same mistakes you made earlier. This spoils even the remotest chances of developing this new relationship into something worthwhile.
So what do you do to manage or get rid of these negative, self-defeating beliefs and feelings? Firstly, do a little bit of introspection. Think deep about the root causes of such beliefs and thoughts. Where did they start from? Can you link any of those, with any personal experiences of the past, or a second-hand experience of what you saw happening between your parents, grandparents or any close cousin?
What were your impressions about these people and their relationships? What lessons, if any, did you draw from what you saw? Are those feelings, affecting you the way you think about relationships now? If you do this exercise with all due honesty, chances are that you might come up with certain very revealing truths.
The next step for you to do is think consciously, NOT to let any past experiences interfere with your present actions and decisions. You have to make that critical CHOICE. You decide that from now on, you will assess the people for the way they are, and each person is unique in his/her own way. If nothing else happens, you will find dating a far more relaxed and judgment-less event which leaves both of you happy.
This topic was discussed with the sole intention of raising your awareness to the fact that past experiences should not be a standard template for all that is expected to happen in your life in present and future. It's alright to draw lessons from the past, but grossly unjust, if you start living in it. Definitely you should analyze your past relationships but please do not let it interfere with your present actions and decisions. Or else, it will hamper your original intention to develop a healthy and loving relationship with someone of your choice. Your present choice.
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