Should You Use This Technique to Pick Up Women?

Salesmen are widely considered to be the best at persuading folks to purchase products. If you pay attention to their techniques, you can learn a lot about human nature and how to influence other people.

In fact, one technique is so effective it could become your secret weapon to increasing your chances of setting up dates with attractive women.

Let me explain…

This tactic, often called "assuming the sale", is employed by a salesman towards the end of a conversation about a product. When it comes time to nudge the potential customer to buy a product, the salesman won't come out and ask if the person is interesting in purchasing it. Instead, the salesman will ask the potential customer what type of product he or she will be purchasing.

Done in a subtle way, the salesman is assuming the person will buy an item and never gives the customer a chance to say no.

Here's an example of how it would work:

Say you're browsing and looking at brand new Mustangs, a salesman would assume the sale by asking if you want your Mustang in red or black. At no point did he ask if you wanted the car. Instead the salesman asks you what type of car you're going to purchase.

Assuming the sale is an incredible way for people to increase their sales and bottom line. It works incredibly well, because the prospect is never given an opportunity to reject the salesman.

Now you can easily implement this tactic when you're talking to a woman. Instead of "assuming the sale", you're "assuming the date".

Here's how easy it is to do…

After approaching and talking to a woman for awhile, you'll get an idea if she's interested in you. If you determine she's attracted to you, then you should implement the "assuming the date" technique.

All you have to do is say something like this:

"I really enjoyed talking to you. We should go out sometime. Which is a better day, Wednesday or Thursday?"

Now this part is important…

Once you ask this question, lock eyes with her and wait for a response. Don't say anything until she does. It's kind of like a standoff, where the first person to speak loses.

If you've read her signals right, then she'll respond with one of the selections you gave her.

After she agrees to a date, tell her you'll call her in a few days and get her number. At this point, you can pull another "assuming the date" move and tell her:

"Great, we'll go have something to eat. Which do you want to give me, your home or cell number?"

I like this technique because in a few minutes you can go from meeting a woman to setting up a date and getting her number. All of this is done without resorting to asking permission to call her.

It's also a great tactic because you're able to show confidence while avoiding the possibility of rejection!

So next time you're talking to a girl and things are going well, just "assume the date". You'll probably walk away from the conversation with a new set of digits and a hot night already planned!

Sex is a Good Thing!

Orgasmic sex between consenting adults provides more benefits to humans than simple shared intimacy. It's also important in maintaining one's physical and mental health.

Numerous studies have shown the beneficial effects of regular orgasms. Sex has been shown to be a great cardiovascular workout and it has been proven to relieve stress, thereby preventing stress related disorders. Regular, satisfying sex may even help you live longer!

On the other hand, sexual frustration, in my opinion, is one of the greatest problems humans face today.

Now, I'm not talking about a guy who's frustrated because his wife has been out of town for a week. I'm talking about 40 year old guys who have never had sex. I'm talking about women who have been so scarred sexually, that they are hoping to get through the rest of their lives without ever having to have sex again. Where does this come from?

Well, let's start by taking a look at history and religion. In many cultures, sex has been labelled "dirty." And it's evident in the way we interact with each other every day that this perception has endured. One of the most obvious instances is the work "fuck." Apparently left over from even more repressive times, the letters are intials describing a stockade offense, "For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge." Today, it has become one of the most negative and widely used words in American English.

Look at high school boys who already have distorted views of sex before they've even participated in the act. We hear things like, "eat me", "bite me", "suck this," "nice girls don't but naughty girls do," and even as they get older, "she's fun, but she's not the kind of girl you want to marry!" How many good hearted and adventurous teenage girls have submitted to the wishes of their beau, only to be shamed, publicly ridiculed or abandoned?

Then boys become men. They get married to "nice girls" and spend the rest of their lives wishing their wives were more adventurous in bed. How many husbands hassle and harrangue their wives to give them what they need (often without thinking of their wife's needs) until she is fed up and no longer interested at all? Our whole concept of sex has become so twisted that many actually scorn its healthful and bonding effects because it has become so tangled up with pain.

And don't forget the contribution of acute sexual frustration to crime. Every sexual offense has its roots in sexual pain and frustration or misconceptions about sex. If sex offenders were capable of having loving, responsible, adult relationships, there would be no need for them to commit such crimes as rape and molestation.

What can we do?

First, let's get it straight that sex is not "dirty." It is a perfectly normal biological function and ignoring the urge won't make it go away. This is simply the way we are designed. If we truly have respect for some kind of all powerful Creator, then it's time we honor the fact that He/She/It made us the way we are. The Human body is a beautiful thing and it's wrong for us to attach such negative connotations to any aspect of our natural selves in favor of some Human conception of how we "should" be.

We must learn to embrace our sexuality. Just because you might have had a bad experience in the past does not mean you're incapable of having a good sexual experience. If your current sex life is not all that you'd like it to be, talk to your partner about what you'd like and work together to break through inhibitions. If your partner is too demanding or not open to such discussion, I suggest you think about finding another partner.

Teach our children. Studies show that children who grow up in households where the parents are more open about their bodies, as opposed to always hiding naked bodies behind closed doors, are actually better adjusted as adults. Children who get unconscious signals that the naked body is shameful or disgusting end up with many more personal hang ups and inhibitions resulting in lower self esteem which only makes it harder to enjoy a healthy sex life.

And don't be afraid to talk to children about sex. It certainly encompasses far more than "where do babies come from." Considering the impact sex, or lack of sex, has on one's life, it seems pretty silly to make everyone figure it all out for themselves by trial and error. Don't shrink away from opportunities to talk to your children about what you've learned when it comes to choosing a partner and maintaining a relationship. Even if you don't feel very successful, they can benefit from your openness and experience.

Guys, apply yourselves and learn how to get laid. Don't say stupid stuff that only serves to increase resistance to sex. You want sex. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face by sending messages that what you really want is disgusting or loathesome. And, don't let yourself get to a point where you are so desperate for sex it's all you can think about. It shows. We've all seen an unneutered dog that tries to hump the leg of everyone that comes along; it's not attractive and it won't help you reach your goal. Don't be afraid to take matters into your own hands periodically to release excess tension so you can present the real you to prospective partners.

And remember, sex is a two way street. Men wouldn't want sex all the time if they rarely ever had a real orgasm and it's the same for women. I know women who have never had an honest to goodness, shuddering, mind blowing, toe curling orgasm! Why, because their partners were far more concerned about their own pleasure instead of focusing on nuturing a long lasting sexual relationship. If all you care about is yourself, then go and pay someone to take care of your needs. Legal and regulated prostitution could go a long way to alleviating the overwhelming amount of sexual tension and resulting crime in our society.

Imagine a world where there is no sexual tension. Hold on, I'm not talking about a world where people run around naked having sex everywhere with anyone who happens to come along. I'm talking about a world where people are happy and comfortable with their bodies and sex. Where people are not so desperate for physical affection that they are actually more attractive. A world where people feel safe and willing to open themselves up to all the beneficial effects of sex. It's a tall order, I know. We've never had such a society, but it's worth it to try.

What to Do When Nobody Likes You

Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, other people still don't like you? Learn what you can do to make friends when it seems as if people don't like you.

Have you been trying hard to make friends with no good results to show for all of your efforts?

If it seems that you have been trying hard to make friends, but that other people still don't want to be your friend, you may have come to the conclusion that there's something wrong with you. That maybe you are basically unlikeable.

Many of us go through such torment of self doubt, especially during our teenage years, when teens are often the victims of vicious bullying from their peers for no reason at all.

If you feel as if the people you are trying to befriend don't like you, the first thing you must do is to ask yourself: Do you have any real evidence that others don't like you?

Or are you just imagining the worst because you are always very harsh with yourself?

People who have low self-esteem, or who are suffering from depression, are often convinced that others don't like them, even when there is no evidence for their negative belief. People who have a poor self image can be surrounded by others who like them, care about them, and enjoy their company; yet because these people don't believe they are worthy of being liked, they are convinced that no one else likes them either.

So, if you are feeling as if nobody likes you, try to find out if there is some real evidence that others don't like you, or whether you are just being very negative in your opinion of yourself.

On the other hand, there are times when it's not just your imagination that others don't like you. It might be really true that most of the people you meet are consistently rejecting you, even when you make social overtures and try to be as friendly to them as possible.

There are many reasons this can happen.

You may have moved to a society where the people are very tight knit with each other, and they don't open up to newcomers easily.

You might be surrounded by people who automatically dislike people of your particular religion, ethnic background, sexual orientation, skin color, or bodily appearance.

You may be surrounded by people who reject you because the clothes you wear are not the latest and most expensive fashion.

In high school years in particular, many teens are strongly conformist, and can be very cruel to those who seem to be different from the norm. Sadly, some people never grow out of the stage of judging others for trivial and superficial reasons.

If you are really are being rejected by others, it is important that you don't make the situation worse by attacking yourself.

This will only make you feel worse, and will make you lose confidence in approaching new people in the future.

Saying negative things to yourself could start you on a downward spiral of self-doubt and self-hatred. Or you might turn your anger outwards in a spirit of bitterness and revenge towards other people. This is not a solution that will win you friends or peace of mind.

It's also important to take a good, hard look at yourself and the way that you interact with other people. There may be specific behaviors that are causing others to dislike you, and these are behaviors which you can change.

Ask yourself the questions on this checklist. If it looks as if any of these behaviors are a problem for you, it's very likely that if you change this behavior, that other people will like you better.

Are you always very negative and complaining all the time? Most people find this habit very annoying.

Do you actively participate in conversations with others? Or do you hold back and let other people do all the work in making conversation. If so, learn to improve your conversational skills so that talking with you is an experience that others look forward to.

Do you endlessly talk about yourself and show little interest in the people you are talking with? Other people will become bored with you very quickly if you seem only interested in yourself.

Do you try too hard to please others, always agreeing with everything that they say, and never having any opinions of your own? People won't respect you if you don't respect yourself.

Do you often say things that hurt the feelings of others and then say it was just a joke? Do you say mean things behind other people's backs? No one will trust you if they think that you are basically an unkind person.

If you want to make other people your friends, it's very important that you don't give up on trying. Keep approaching people, keep trying to make conversation. Get rid of your bad social habits if they are getting in the way of friendship.

If you are being given the cold shoulder by many of the people you encounter, particularly in your school or workplace, keep looking elsewhere for people you can confide in and befriend. You can try in your church, in your community, and in your own family.

Work on developing the talents and good qualities within yourself so that you can appeal in a new way to other people with whom you will have more in common. Continue to actively search out other people who will like you and accept you.

Don't give up trying. Keep working at learning how to make friendly conversation and you will eventually make friends with people who truly like you.

Dating/Relationships & Independence: Women Over 40 Keep Your Life In Balance

<b>Women wanting a relationship</b>

At least 50% of the women over 40 whom I coach say at some point, rather defensively, "I want to do this coaching work with you but I don't really know whether I want to be in a relationship". They are defensive because they think that everyone is expected to want to be with a partner. That is how the world appears, especially when we are single. Interestingly this is not the whole of the story. When I dig a little deeper what usually comes up is that for many women their worst fear is that they don't want to lose their independence. You have all worked hard to gain your independent place, especially those in their 40s, 50s & 60s. This of course is not only in relationships but also in the world of work. For many women when they have got used to being single they are, on many levels, very happy with their lives. "I like being able to do what I want to do, when I want to do it, without having to ask anyone else's permission." said Emily a divorced women in her 50s. "I spent so many years being at the beck and call not only of my husband but also my children, they are grown up and it is now time for me". We can all sympathise with her.

<b>Women want independence & relationships</b>

In fact, many women come to me to find out is whether they can find the kind of relationship that they want whilst still retaining their independence. Like everything in life it is about balance. Relationship coaching does not mean that we don't look at the whole picture of your life. No relationship will work if you are not in balance with yourself. Now you may have got very used to

How to Tell If Your Boyfriend or Husband Is Cheating On You

The word infidelity brings with it fear to every woman I've ever had the opportunity to speak with. While many make the claim that their spouse would never cheat on them they realize that is false hope and that it could very well happen to them.

When trying to decide if your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you, you should start by looking for some of the warning signs. <ol> <li>Lower desire to be with you sexually.</li> <li>Suddenly tries new sexual positions.</li> <li>Working late more often.</li> <li>Mysterious phone calls.</li> <li>Gets angry when you look at the cell phone, pager, or computer. Is secretive of such.</li> <li>Smell of perfume on their clothing.</li> <li>Takes a shower as soon as he comes home.</li> <li>You find hairs or other objects on his body or in his possessions.</li> <li>Starts taking more care with his appearance.</li> <li>Accuses you of cheating.</li> <li>He changes his normal routine without cause or reason.</li> </ol>

Now it's really easy to look at a list like this and see something that your husband does. That's why it's important to remember that you are looking for changes in his behavior. If you husband normally takes a shower as soon as he gets home from work then it is unlikely that this is a sign of his cheating. You are looking for multiple changes in behavior, routine, or personality; not isolated incidences or incidences that do not last. Take for example the lower desire to be with you sexually. This would be common when your husband is sick or under pressure at work. This alone should not raise any red flags. However, if you notice this and then a week later he comes home smelling of perfume, this is cause for alarm.

There are many people out there claiming to be experts who will tell you that you should confront your husband when you become suspicious but, that is on of the worst things you can do. I've even read that you should confront because the longer you wait the better they become at lying to you. I believe these people have never been in your position. To confront without some sort of evidence will only lead to more lies. Do not be fooled, your boyfriend or husband has been lying to you for quite some time and is really good at it.

If you confront without evidence you will be lied to. They will even lie when you have the evidence. Without evidence you will be left with more doubts than when you started and you will feel as if you are crazy. Your husband will spin it and make it seem as though he just can't believe that you would think such a thing about him. Also, you can bet your last dollar that he will become much more careful of his actions and behaviors and you may never find the truth. Also consider the possibility that your suspicions are unfounded. What will happen to your relationship if you confront then? You valued your relationship so little that you jumped to conclusions and accused your husband of cheating without any proof!

Remember to always verify before you confront.

Cambodian Women Are Great

When people realize that Cambodia's population consists mostly of women, they often smile. After all, it is great to know that this unique country is full of beautiful Asian women. In fact, there are at least 2 million people living in households that are run by women alone. This is an empowering thought to women everywhere.

In addition to women running households, they also are responsible for the farming population for the most part. Cambodian women are strong physically and mentally. They often take on the responsibilities of the farm and the household. They know how to manage livestock and the fisheries as well. These physical traits are quite attractive to many people of the world, especially farmers in search of a good wife.

The truth is that Cambodia women have to rely on their physical labor because they often are not well educated. In fact, the literacy rate for women in Cambodia is about 20% less than what the literacy rate for men is in Cambodia. This can be quite alarming for many people outside the country. But instead of choosing to live in poverty, Cambodian women get out there and work for their pay. They don't often get credit for their hard work, but they do contribute to the household greatly. So, if someone asked what the most attractive thing about Cambodia's women was, besides beauty of course, it would have to be their ability to work hard. They help provide for their family and at least 20% of the women of Cambodia are alone in the task.

Dating Advice: Do Not Date Your Co-Worker

Similar to not dating your friend, dating your co-worker is another no-no in the relationship world. There are obvious reasons for not dating one's co-worker, including a potential negative, awkward working environment if the relationship ends, division among co-workers after a break-up, and in a lesser extent unprofessionalism in the working environment.

Falling for one's co-worker happens more often than one may think. Given the proximity (time and space) and closeness that co-workers have with each other, it is quite inevitable that relationships form in the workplace. The trick is, one must realize the ramifications of such relationships. If one outweighs the advantages and disadvantages of such a relationship and determines that it is beneficial, then by all means, go for it.

But, realize that if it does not work out (pun intended), then be prepared to suffer the consequences. If one works closely with said co-worker, then it will be a very uncomfortable working environment. This may lead to reassignment or a potential layoff if it becomes too much of an issue. Do not sacrifice your employment for something as trivial as just

Soulmate Connection

We know there are magical signs once we meet our soulmates face to face. Expect it to be not ordinary. Imagine a fairy-tale coming alive. Most certainly, there would be sparks flying, butterflies in the stomach, stuttered sentences, ease of communication, physical attractions, love-at-first-sights, answered prayers, love remembered from dreams; in other words, a soulmate connection.

At first, the connection may be quite dream-like and a little too overwhelming until it turns into a vague familiarity. It may also be intense there may be no words to describe it perfectly. Details of soulmate connections can every so often overpower love itself. It's spirit-lifting. It's addictive. It's without doubt a "connection" between two hearts. It's beyond anything you have experienced.

Meeting your soulmate at this time and age is a rare gift, one who's interested needs to plumb the depths of all possibilities, if not, just wait for it to happen. But for some, waiting can be as dreadful as searching without finding the "right one". So might as well go for it and enjoy every second of your "finding your soulmate expedition". At least, you will not tell yourself you did not try.

Romance novels and studies on "finding your soulmate" have it all- the unbelievable peaks and lows people go through just to meet their soulmates. And their stories have all one thing to say- once they have met their soulmates, it was as if they have known and loved each other before. And they can't wait to spend their lives with each other forever.

With all these far-fetched concepts about soulmate connection, who then do you think wouldn't do anything for love? If it's that heavenly perfect, anyone will surely risk anything just to experience it. How about you? How far would you go for love?

It's every girl's dream for sure

New Girlfriends

Depending on the depth of knowledge each partner has about the other, there are various do's and don'ts regarding new girlfriends. But first you must know that the initiation of a successful relationship depends on a) whether either of you is fresh out of an earlier relationship or relationships, b) whether this is your or her first relationship ever, and c) the amount of time that has passed since your or her last relationship.

Like a new job or apartment, a new girlfriend brings a host of changes in your world. You should be careful in such a new relationship. Remember that with everything new comes a great sense of apprehensiveness - both for you and for her. An overstepping and overenthusiastic romantic partner is not exactly a perfect remedy to this apprehensiveness.

Certainly there will be some awkward moments between the two of you during the first few dates and meetings, but those moments should be seen as mere teething pains. It is a good idea to find out your new girlfriend's likes and dislikes, so that dates and outings are entertaining for both of you.

Personal space is one of the most important factors in a relationship. Even in the thickest of relationships there are times when a person just wants to be alone. This is most common when one has a new girlfriend, but the rule applies to relationships of all durations

How To Write A Great Profile For The Internet

Writing a great profile on the internet is one of the keys to getting dates online. However, not everyone knows the art of writing a profile. A profile of course, is a form of self-advertisement on the internet, and on its merits you wish to find prospective friends and potential partners. Of course, this is not as easy as it seems. In a word, there is tremendous competition in this field - which makes it more pressing for you learn how to write a great internet profile. Creating a PersonalityThe first thing you have to remember on the internet is: you have to stand out. With millions of people now using personal ads, it is almost impossible to get optimal results if you only create a run-of-the-mill profile. You have to distinguish yourself, and use whatever tools you have to gain a measure of popularity. Two things will tend to catch the eye of someone browsing through personal ads. One is the username you've chosen, the other is the picture that you've uploaded. The username is important and must say something about you. You can use your name if you wish, but generally you should shy away from using your full name and instead some sort of nickname. Make sure that the name you choose has some sort of appeal, especially to the type of people you want to attract with your ad. The picture is another important aspect of your profile that you shouldn't ignore. You should always try to upload your best, most personable picture - and then some.Remember that people usually judge by appearances, so to get the best results, you should try to put on the best of appearances. Try to upload a variety of pictures, one that shows you in different aspects of life. The Rest of It While the username you use and the pictures are the most important parts of your profile, you should not ignore the other portions. In fact, you should probably spend as much time making sure that you have a quality profile. This is where people will really being to get interested in you, not just in your appearance. You should probably list your hobbies and the things at which you usually spend your time. This is, after all, important information when it comes to the people who are looking into your profile. Especially if you are looking for friend or potential mates, since they will want to know what they have in common with you. A short of list of favorite movies, books, and songs might be useful in this regard. Remember: a profile is a representation of you over the internet. If that is so, make sure that you make the best one possible.